When people ask me what they should learn about upon entering the BDSM world, one of the main things that I stress is safety. Ours is a tricky world, with lots of potential hazards. From the moment we begin, we have to be careful. That doesn't just include making sure we can quickly get someone out of an elaborate knot we've tied. It can be a whole host of things, from habitually clearing our search history to understanding negotiations and safe words to exercising caution when communicating with and meeting new people. So let's look at a few tips to keep in mind. 1) Searching the internet - If you're new to the idea of BDSM or not that computer savvy, then you're going to want to be careful what sites you get on and who else has access to your computer. The easiest ways to be careful when it comes to the sites is to keep one thing in mind. That is, there's a difference between networking and dating. When you're operating in the BDSM world you want to n

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