When I started this blog I had two goals in mind, to talk about BDSM and to talk about writing. I've written a lot about BDSM here, but little about writing. I'm going to explore the later a bit in this post, but I'm going to start, and keep a grounded foot in, the other topic. My life is dictated by many factors and necessities. Given that I spend much of it with with perverts, discretion is a big one. One of my personal favorite moments in Ignite35: My Life in the Sex Fetish Community is when I first meet D.C. and he explaines, "There are people in this community who, if their involvement were discovered, could lose their jobs, respect of peers, custody of their children... In highly extreme cases, they could face criminal investigation. We may call it 'play,' but this isn't a game." It's important to remember such things. In living this way, you have to keep a lot of secrets and you have to be careful of what you do share. I have long ti

This is my author page and blog. Here you can learn about, among other things, my book, Ignite35: My Life in the Sex Fetish Community. It’s narrative nonfiction that’s part memoir, part expose’ and part “how to” book, all centered around the real world of the BDSM community. If you ever wondered what it’s really like to wield a whip over a submissive, or just to socialize with those who do, Ignite35 is where the answers–the real answers–can be found.